I’ve given much thought the last year or so to this whole “domesticated” thing- and, though I loathe to admit it, it has definitely grown on me. Being a traveling, homeschooling wife and mother has many benefits.
I spend time with the children. Much more time than I could when I was working outside of the home.
There is no early morning rush to get ready for school, eat breakfast, and get on the bus.
The kids have school work, not home work. They don’t go to school for 9 hours, only to come home and do 2 hours of homework each night.
Before being a stay-at-home mom, I was the mom who reluctantly dropped my children off at daycare before heading to work. While I was at work, someone else was watching my children roll over for the first time, and someone else watched them take their first real steps.
With Sam, that isn’t a problem. I’ve seen every ‘first.’ I’ve never had to leave him with someone else when he wasn’t feeling well. I’ve never had to ask someone to watch him when I was working later than usual, or when I was on duty or deployed.
I love being with my children.
I spend time with my husband, the sweetest man on the face of the earth.
I kind of like spending time with him.
If it weren’t for being a stay at home mom, I would be out of practice in many other things.
My cooking skills have improved. Even better, my children are learning to cook- something my mother barely taught me growing up. My mother will be the first to admit that she cooks out of necessity, and not out of enjoyment.
I’ve always loved cooking, but my cooking experiences before this were very limited after I left home due to the time constraints. When I was stationed in Bethesda, I would leave for work before 5 am, and would work from approximately 0630 until after 1600- only to face an hour or more of a commute. I’d be so exhausted by the time that I got home that sandwiches or hamburger helper were often the evening meal.
Adding to that, I’ve been able to break out the crochet hooks, my sewing machine, my jewelry-making equipment, my art supplies, and all of those books that I put off reading because I was so darned busy trying to take care of everything else.
I had hoped to have more time with my photography, building my brand and business, but so many other things have kept me from that. Family illnesses, deaths, and the traveling aside, I am always busy with something. “Woman’s work is never done,” so I’ve heard- and it’s absolutely true.
Along those lines, I’ve started thinking about the whole ‘homesteading’ aspect of being a stay-at-home wife and mother. We travel so much right now that it wouldn’t be possible to have a garden, chickens, goats, a hog or a young cow for meat- but hopefully, when things are settled in the travel department, it will be possible. We aren’t home often enough to really enjoy the benefits of living so close to Lake Anna, but in the future we’d like to add more fish to our diet, as well as venison and other wild game.
Sometimes, I miss having the second income that I could bring in if I were working even part-time. We’ve been talking the last few weeks about what we can do to make more of our food, cleaning products, and making clothing or altering clothing purchased at thrift shops or Goodwill, to make my husband’s retirement pay stretch further. My going back to work is an option, yes, but the benefits that our family gain from my staying home would be gone- and so it is the last and most drastic option.
I wasn’t certain what domestication would bring to me when I was starting out on this journey, but I have to say that I enjoy it. I’m very blessed in that I have the opportunity to stay at home with these amazing children and my wonderful husband.